This chapter describes how the Universe already began to connect me with people years before my dad’s diagnose, people who then became close friends and who played a vital role on his healing journey. Know that this is not just about my dad, or about who is the no. 1 healer, or taking all the credit! It goes far beyond that! All of this took place to raise awareness in so many ways; to share all of the experience in order to contribute to a world of togetherness in collaboration rather than competition. It is time to overcome stagnant belief systems! There are many solutions out there to regain health again, perfectly adapted to our individual needs. We are more than just machines, we are capable of achieving so much more, but not if we remain stuck in the misguidance of an ego mind control system.
My friend Uli was introduced to me in 2000 by some friends whose children went to the same nursery. We are both from Germany and sometimes found it hard to get used to the NHS system over here. Whenever there was a health issue we ended up consulting each other. Often I would mention Homeopathy because it had already worked on my daughter and son. Jokingly we said; “we have to become self sufficient and start to be our own healers”.
I would often tell Uli that she’d make an excellent Homeopath, which has turned out to be the case.
Finally, 3 years later, Uli decided to start a course in Eastbourne to become one. 2 weeks into my dad’s illness the Homeopathic College was teaching “A Homeopathic approach to cancer’, developed by Dr. Ramakrishnan. Uli first informed my then husband William of this method, who passed the information on to me;. This is what I had been searching for, here the Universe was bringing it to us/me through different channels, it later turned out to be one of the major key factors in successfully healing the tumour.
In 2003 I was visiting my parents in Germany. One night a friend took me out to a local nightclub where I saw a young tall man looking distressed. “His girlfriend broke up with him” I thought “How could I possibly talk to him without giving out a false impression?!”
There was an internal battle going on between wishing to talk to him, give him some comfort, not wanting to force my support on him and thinking to just leave the whole thing because it was none of my business.
After a while this young man decided to go home and started to walk towards the exit. An inner voice was urging me to follow him. My mind kept saying ‘No’ to it all. “if its meant to be I will see him again”! “What if you won’t see him again? You live in the UK. Go and talk to him, he needs comfort. You will never forgive yourself if anything happened to him and you know you could have done something just by showing some care”, responded my inner voice to the doubtful mind talk. Unsure as to who to listen to, I suddenly felt as if a gentle hand was prompting me to move towards the exit too, until I eventually stood right behind him hearing myself say: “where are you going?” “Home” he replied “have to get up early for work. I also have to look after my dog. My girlfriend left me, so its me looking after him. My name is Jens by the way”. “Oh, ok” I replied “I’m visiting my parents and live in England with my husband and children. So sorry your girlfriend left you. I better let you get home then.” Jens was thrilled to hear we lived in England; he told me how much he loved the UK. We exchanged email addresses and over the coming weeks he was able to confide in me. Somehow I managed to convince him not to shut himself off from other women because somewhere out there was the right one for him. Shortly after our conversation he met Tanja, his future wife, an A&E nurse in the hospital where my dad was going to be treated 2 years later.
Tanja was an incredible support right from the start, together with Jens; she organised meetings with consultants and was constantly there to give me advise on any medical questions I had.
In February 2004, the year my dad was diagnosed, I was back in Germany. This time I went out for a drink with my dear friend Christine. We met when we were 16 years old at our first job. That night we happened to stand right next to a tall beautiful lady; Conny had just ended a very toxic relationship and was out for the first time after weeks of staying indoors. We talked as if we had known each other forever. When it was time to head home, I asked Conny for her number. Again I didn’t want to come across as being pushy or intrusive; the same inner voice told me to stay in touch. “It can’t be intrusive just to check on her wellbeing, after all, we got on so well” I thought to myself.
Next time we met, Conny introduced me to her friend Sabine who told us all about her mother-in-law who was suffering from pancreatic cancer. Sabine’s brother-in-law was an Internist; a physician specialised in internal medicine. Interestingly he was also trained in complimentary medicine! She explained to us that her mother-in-law refused any treatment and it was her strong will alone that was keeping her alive, way beyond her predicted life expectancy. Unfortunately she would not even allow her son to apply any kind of treatment on her. The mother-in-law died a few months after our meeting.
I listened with great interest, and it was 5 months later when I knew I had to get in touch with Sabine to ask for her brother-in-law’s phone number to discuss my dad’s case with him.
As mentioned before, knowing how my dad’s mind operated, I needed to find a qualified medical doctor who was also specialised in holistic treatments, somebody my dad would respect to take on board his expert advice. The Universe knew my dad too and had provided me beforehand with the relevant people, able to connect me exactly with these kinds of specialists!
Finally I got hold of Sabine’s brother-in-law. He recommended one of Germany’s top consultants, specialised in 3 medical fields, plus he is a trained Homeopath, running his own clinic in the south of Germany. Dr. Uwe Friedrich was a very important figure in this whole experience; my dad respected him and therefore followed his advice not to opt for a Chemotherapy treatment but rather to follow a holistic programme. Dr. Friedrich was also the one who applied the first homeopathic treatment and pointed out that my dad’s lifestyle was what had made him sick; changing it for a healthier one would increase his chances of recovery.
2 weeks after my dad had stayed at Dr. Friedrich’s clinic, he developed jaundice again and needed to return home to be hospitalised for another 3 weeks. In order to continue the homeopathic treatment, Dr. Friedrich advised my dad to see one of his highly respected colleagues, Dr. Andreas Wacker; he was the one my dad frequently visited and who applied the Plussing Method
Another important incident worth mentioning is the story of my brother, Markus. His wife Margit was diagnosed with a deadly form of Leukemia in 1990, before they were married. She spent 1 year in hospital, during which she had to go through an endless list of medical and Chemotherapy treatments, operations, until one day Markus said that he had enough of Margit being used as a guinea pig and signed a form for her to be released. He searched and found an anthrophosophical clinic where Margit was treated using a holistic approach to address the root cause of her illness.
At the time he was trying to explain to me that there had to be an underlying emotional reason for the Leukemia to occur in the first place. I was very sceptical at the time, believing taking Margit out of hospital was a death sentence.
Today they are happily married with a healthy son. Markus was the one who opened me up to a lot of mind/body/spirit knowledge, giving me precious advice, which finally convinced me that some form of toxic memory or trauma must have created this tumour within my dad’s body.